Tuesday, December 11, 2012

US

Maui




Her Story

So, never having gone on a single date before in my life, I thought perhaps it was time to venture out and give this internet dating thing a try. Dan was the first person I ever met, and the rest is a fairytale. Ok, it didn't go exactly like this, but I believe in my heart that everything happens for a reason. I believe this is the point in our lives that we were meant to meet and the timing was right. Timing is everything. We did meet on the internet, which is a little funny considering we grew up down the street from each other...literally five minutes apart. And yet, we never met; it wasn't time. I was in the same fifth grade class as his step-sister. And yet, we never met; it wasn't time. My sister went to school with his brother. And yet, we never met; it wasn't time. I lived at the beach; he lived at the beach. And yet, we never met; it wasn't time. I tried this internet dating thing before, and yet, never met anyone with whom it clicked. It wasn't time. In fact, I was ready to give up on dating completely, but there was this one last guy I wanted to meet... this cute surfer boy. We talked and emailed and texted, but seemed to have difficulty finding...a time. In retrospect, I would argue that my ridiculous need to schedule everything was in conflict with his ridiculous need to "just see what happens". Regardless, we finally met, and it clicked. And there was a date two, a street fair that turned into a ten hour date! On date three, we went bike riding and had a picnic down by the bay. That day I sprained my finger in a railing, because I am not that good at the whole bike riding and trying to seem graceful simultaneously thing. I remember saying teasingly... you know you are stuck with me now, until this thing heals. He promised. Then, I went to the doctor and they said, this type of sprain never fully heals. I laughed when I told him he didn't know what he had promised. I feel like we were both hesitant and cautious at first. We took the time to get to know one another and it took a while to get to the point we are today. There was a lot of compromise. I've heard people say, they "just knew" from the moment they met someone. I don't know that I would say for me it was an immediate "I KNOW!", but if I had said that, it wouldn't be me. I am careful, analytical and I over think things. When people ask me what I love about Dan, I say, I love who he is, and who he is to me. I love his character. He is a good person; he has integrity. He is honest, thoughtful, kind and loves me for who I am. He is willing to call me on my (very rare) manipulative behavior and (gasp) inability to rinse out my dishes. He is willing to take responsibility and apologize when he is wrong, and forgive me when I am. He does not hold grudges. That is all I have ever wanted. I remember asking my sisters what quality they most loved about their husbands. They both said, their kind hearts, because then you know they will treat you as you deserve to be treated. I found that. Did I know on date one? No. Date two? Maybe. Date three? Hopeful. But, I do know now. I feel completely confident that the time is right.

His Story
She was serious our first date........ She let me know that she wanted to meet me soon, which, by the way, almost didn't happen on my account. This woman
with a pleasant, but serious tone to her voice surprised me when she called in the afternoon, since at this point we had yet to talk on the phone. She was headed back from L.A. and wanted to know if I could meet for a bit. Being surprised, I said let's try for another time, I'm going to jump in the water. Wondering if that was a mistake, I thought to myself, if its going work out... it will. A few days passed by and this woman is calling me again! [my perspective...it pays off to call back] 
Excited and a bit nervous, I answer and we end up on our first date.....

Fast forward two years. In my head it was six months, but she keeps telling me it is two years.

Checking spots to pop the big question on the road to Hana, heart in throat, hands sweaty, and she didn't have a clue! As we were driving I kept saying to myself, "Is this the spot? No, this doesn't feel right. We keep driving and end up going for a gorgeous hike at Waianapanapa park. As we were hiking I see a little point overlooking the ocean and knew this was it! .........The rest is history. I am truly blessed to have this woman in my life. I'm amazed at the wonderful and kind woman that she is.....selfless. She is patient and listens with an open heart. I love her and will be blessed to call her my wife.

P.S.  These are from the wedding site and just don't want to lose all of these random, important words...in digital files somewhere...

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